Relocating After Marriage?

You’re tying the knot. Yay!!! It’s that time of your life when you get to wear the veil (instead of the pillow case with which you practiced ever since you were a little girl); and it’s your turn to be all pretty and in the limelight. But once the day has passed, and the lights have been turned off, you’re going to realize but one thing – everything around you has changed and HOW!

One of the biggest challenges that marriage might bring along with it is that of relocation; and if your man is getting you to pack your bags and move with him, then you might be up for one of the biggest challenges of your life.

Sit down and breathe for a second; don’t hyper-ventilate. Moving doesn’t have to be bad; and it can, in fact, be a great opportunity for you to have the life that you’d never even dreamt of. Moving off with your spouse could mean that you’d now have the chance of having him all to yourself (read: no monster-in-law around).

If you know that you’re relocating after marriage; you might want to consider it a new start that life has presented you with. Give it your best shot, girl!

Google to the rescue

This may be the easiest solution available – GOOGLE! You could try researching the place that you’re now going to move to. Believe it or not, Google can also tell you about all the local nitty-gritties that you might not even learn after living there for a good 6 months. The most important aspect here would be to learn the language if you’re going to be shifting base to a place that uses a different language to communicate in, from the one that you’re currently used to. Ensure that you learn at least the basics in that language (Where is the washroom? How much for the mushrooms? Etc etc)

As one of my newer friends put it; when she was expected to shift from England to Boston, she found help from her then fiancé and now husband; who told her a lot about Boston and urged her to Google the place and learn as much about the culture and the cuisine before she got here.

Don’t give up on that booming career as yet

Just because you’re in a new place, it doesn’t mean that you would have to give up on your own career. You could try and socialize with people who are from your own field even in this new region. You could learn from them, a few tricks about running the trade around this side of town.

It could be tricky in the beginning; given the fact that people have their own groups that have been around for years, and you feel like the odd duck out. But then again, if you don’t take the efforts, you’re always going to be the new girl in town. You wouldn’t want that, would you?

The readymade friend’s circle

The new hubby should be able to help you out when it comes to this one. Believe it or not; his colleagues and friends may also have been in a similar situation when they got married (just cross your fingers and hope you aren’t the first married couple in his circle). This way, you’ll have a readymade circle of friends in the form of their wives; who have, perhaps, dealt with the same situation that you find yourself in right now. Perhaps, they were the ‘new girl in town’ until some time back; and now that they’ve found their niche in the market; they could help you find yours too.

Don’t forget where you came from

Do not forget to keep in touch with your old friends; the one’s you grew up with. Every time you feel low, you might want to send them a ‘hi’ over facebook; and seeing a response to that ‘hello’ will definitely help send the blues away for a while. You could chat with friends back home, and feel better about the blues that hound you.

If you have some tips of your own; the types that helped you when you had to relocate, then share them with us.

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